“In essence, if we want to direct our lives, we must take control of our consistent actions. It's not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently.”
After over a decade of working with health and wellness, one of the common consistencies when it comes to change habits, regardless of the location, age, and gender, is that everyone wants to know how to be consistent. There’s a distinct difference between those who consistently show up for themselves - time and time again - and those who don’t and that difference: success.
Common misconceptions that people have is that they have the willpower to push and relying on said willpower will help them get through. Or they believe that when it’s time to make it happen motivation will be there to get them through. Reality is, both of these are myths.
Time and time again we’ve proven this doesn’t work, but why? Not only do most people not have willpower, in situations that require willpower, we never rise to the level of our desires but we’ll always fall to the level of our standards. So how do we hack consistency to intentionally take action if most of us don’t have the will power to make it happen and motivation will be no where to be found?
Here are 5 tricks of the trade for becoming consistent and transforming your body and life!
1. Have a Clear Plan
Many people who fail to stay consistent, dive in ready to make changes. They go day by day throwing spaghetti at the wall hoping something will stick. This is the last thing you want to do when you are working on creating a new lifestyle. Decide what the end goal is and work backwards to find out the steps you need to take to get from where you are to where you want to be. Not having a clear plan doesn’t give you clear action steps to follow which makes it a lot easier to get off track.
2. Raise Your Standards
I also call this creating a new identity. It’s easy to skip a workout, mediation session, or anything other new task is because the your current standards make the new task optional. It’s not important or a priority to you, yet. Your standards, or beliefs, or mindset, or whatever other way you want to describe it - are driving your actions. When your standards align with where you are, you’ll get more of the same. When you commit to raising your standards to the level of your dreams, your actions will align.
3. Be Present.
While most people look over this very important aspect of their journey, this is the foundation of my Mindful Body Blueprint. Thing is, you can’t change what you are not aware of. This process usually takes some slowly down and being intentional and it’s all worth it. You’ve run on autopilot for a while now. I mean just think about the last time you ordered food or ate something you just said you wouldn’t eat. Or the last time you drove straight home after you said you were heading to the gym or grocery store after work. I’m willing to bet your mental attention was elsewhere and autopilot kicked in. Allow your mind and your body to be present and engaged at all times. When you find yourself distracted or thinking about something outside of the present moment, you are missing out of the power of presence. Just bring your attention back to the moment. For example, if you’re working on creating a new habit of working out, focus on proper mechanics, proper breathing, appreciating the rest stage, etc. Your attention will be with you in the moment and you’re able to make right now corrections. The best news here is that when your lifestyle changes become habits, they’ll run on autopilot, too.
4. Remember feelings are subjective and care about how you feel.
It’s not likely you’ll want to workout or meal prep often if you always think it’s the most draining experience and takes time away from all the amazing glory that is your life. Here’s a secret, your feelings follow your focus. If you’re focused on how your don’t want to get out of your cozy bed to do an exhausting workout, you’re focused on the worse aspects of the experience so naturally, you won’t want to do it and everything in life will line to support you in not getting it done. Change your focus to the most positive aspects of the new habit. Will it help you tone up or maintain your curves? Will it be provide ease and convenience later? Will it help you get into that sexy black dress? Does that exercise give you more energy? Just think of you last birthday celebration. Remember how you looked forward to the day? Remember how you planned out your outfit and thought about the guests you might invite? Remember how excited your were? Can you imagine that type of anticipation for the very things that will change your life? When you care about how you feel, you go from one exciting experience to another. By looking for the positive aspects of every new habit, you’ll get your momentum going to have more satisfying workouts, meal prepping - insert other currently painful habit that will help you hit your health goals - and more.
5. Be accountable to your results, with support.
Truth is, you don’t know what you don’t know so we all hit a plateau. We all hit our own personal upper limits but the key to exploding through the ceilings, regardless of whether they are mental, physical, or financial, is to be accountable to your results. There is no plan B. That doesn’t mean do it all on your own, just do the best you can. It means be accountable to getting to the results regardless of how you have to get there - granted unhealthy and illegal should probably be taken off the list of options.
When it comes to getting support that can look many different ways. You can leverage the power of a mastermind with women working toward a similar goal. You can also use the power of a mentor or health coach to help you structure and quickly grow past your current standpoint. You may even want to take the route of hiring a nutritionist to teach you how to eat properly or hire a food service to make the meals for you. Support can look many different ways and with the internet, there’s not shortage of people who can support you no matter what your goal is.
Regardless of what your preferred way of seeking help is, make it a priority to get support to reduce the risk of wasted time attempting to figure out how to get pass a personal upper limit. You’ll be amazed by the amount of time you can save and the accelerated results you can get by getting a little support so you can avoid struggling to stay consistent while you realize your dreams.